July 5, 2021

Dealing with Anger in a Positive Way

By Ariadna Escobar

What is Anger?

Anger is an emotional state in which its intensity can vary from mild irritation to rage. It is a normal and healthy human emotion that everyone has. However, it can get out of control and that can lead to problems in the workplace, personal relationships, and in other daily life situations. When a person goes through the emotion of anger, their heart rate and blood pressure go up, as well as the level of energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. People express anger in a natural and instinctive way by responding aggressively. If a person feels attacked, the natural response is to defend themselves.

Anger Management

couple angry with one another

When anger becomes a problem, that is when anger management is needed. The goal is to reduce the emotional feelings and physiological arousal that anger causes. It is important to know how to control your anger in a healthy way to not damage your own well-being and your relationships. Consider these 11 tips if you find yourself becoming uncontrollably angry.

  1. Count down  
  2. Think before you speak
  3. Get some exercise
  4. Take a timeout
  5. Write in your journal
  6. Identify possible solutions
  7. Picture a stop sign
  8. Talk to a friend or family member
  9. Use humor to release tension
  10. Don’t hold grudge
  11. Practice relaxation skills

Don't Let Anger Control You

It is important for people to know how to manage their anger so they won’t do or say anything that can hurt other people physically and emotionally and leave regret later. If you think you have anger issues or find these tips don’t help, consider talking to a therapist. 

How we can help in your anger management journey

Norooz Clinic offers various counseling services that can help people with their anger problems. Call us today (949) 242-9720 to schedule an appointment. Our therapists speak English, Farsi and Spanish.


American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Controlling anger before it controls you. https://www.apa.org/

Holland, K. (2019). Healthline. How to Control Anger: 25 Tips to Help You Stay Calm. https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-to-control-anger#1

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